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Life’s Too Short

May 18, 2016
 

On my 30th birthday, I’d like to share this gift with you. The gift is choosing to #beprettybrave. Or, you can send yourself into a spiral of doubt, the later of which is never, ever fun, or light, or joyful. You see, life is so short, so precious, that I can’t imagine why we don’t all choose joy in every moment. Why do we do these awful things to ourselves, like seeking outside validation, when at the end of life, I’m certain we’d feel incredibly cheated of our experience.

Why do we care so deeply about what someone else thinks about the way we look? The path we choose? The decisions we want to make? What if we were brave enough to tune out the noise and do only what feels exactly right for each of us? What if we were not to judge someone else’s decision, but to accept it as their Pretty Brave choice, the choice that’s exactly right for them, even if it doesn’t mirror what we believe to be true for us. How can our Divine Hums within be wrong? If we pay close attention to the voice within us–the Hum–we know, there is nothing that could be more true, more right, for each of us.

I want us all to choose joy in every moment. Zoom way out and see the big picture; our Earth Suit is just a vehicle for experience and we get to choose what that experience is like. We have the choice: We can live in perpetual self-doubt, continuing this wasteful and vicious cycle our modern western culture is so sucked into, or, we can choose to be Pretty Brave. That is, listen only to the Hum within each of us. What is absolutely and irrefutably true for you in this very moment?

In this video, I explain that I had the choice to feel fat. What I realized in my thought process, and as I was digging for my own tools in my confidence toolkit, was that even the hour of contemplation it took for me to decide to be Pretty Brave was a huge waste of time. I never want to give anything so negative that much time of my life, ever again.

When we zoom out, we’re able to see that these tiny things our culture obsesses about are so pointless and meaningless. Being Pretty Brave is my favorite tool for tuning out the outside noise to listen in to the Hum within. This choice is absolutely our highest and best intention.

Choose joy. Be Pretty Brave.

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The One Choice I Make Every Morning

May 3, 2016
 

A couple weeks ago, I spent an incredible, long weekend in Santa Fe with Gail Larsen, my Transformational Speaking coach. I love public speaking and sharing my stories related to doubt and self-worth, but what you may not know, is the act of speaking truthfully completely drains me. It feels like I pour everything out for everyone else, and leave nothing to nourish myself. It’s depleting and feels unsustainable. After I speak, I make like a bear in hibernation and catch some much needed Zs. I have to peel my eyelids open to find my hotel room.

I’ve always wondered why this intense exhaustion was happening to me? Was everyone’s experience of public speaking this way?

Gail commented, “Emily, I’m worried that your speaking doesn’t feel sustainable. I’m wondering why you feel like you have no energy left?”

I polled the small but mighty group of women I was studying with, “Does anyone else feel completely drained?” They all said they felt fine. No one felt like they had a massive energy dump. Just me.

Gail suggested an exercise for all of us, which was my key takeaway from the entire immersion. She asked, “What’s your main persona when you speak? Why?” I answered, “I’m a thinker. An intellectual. And why is a great question. I’m an over-achieving university graduate with a modeling background and I want to establish myself as an intellectual woman. Because I am.”

“Because I am,” was like saying, “Eureka!” It gave me all the permission–or realization–I needed to let go of needing to be so analytical, to being the thinker when I’m speaking.

Gail asked the next question, “If you could not be the main persona you share in your speeches–the thinker–what persona would you pick? What persona do you use today, in your new story, that you might not be using in your speeches?”

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Emily Nolan for L’Oreal Women of Worth

April 28, 2016
 

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I was asked to pick a sample audience to give my final speech at Gail Larsen’s Transformational Speaking immersion, and out of my mouth, I blurted, “L’Oreal Women of Worth.” I was a bit surprised to hear the audience I had impulsively chosen for myself.

One of the fiery small group participants, Deb, leaned forward, seated on a slouchy leather sofa, looked at me dead in the eyes and said, nodding, “Is that who you want to give your speech to?” I replied, smiling with a confident head nod, “Yes.”

“Then own it.” She said, as if she was directing my soul, offering a medicine I’m so used to prescribing: “Listen to your Hum.”

So I listened. “You are all the audience of L’Oreal’s Women of Worth award ceremony. You are beauty executives and influential celebrities.” All of me knew, this is absolutely who my audience is, even if it started as a small group of six women in a cozy room in Santa Fe.

I knew nothing of the Women of Worth awards, except for, I’d love to be there and share my story. I didn’t know how or when to apply, I didn’t know the qualifications, I didn’t even know the award nominations were happening as I spoke the words to life. Choosing the Women of Worth audience was completely random and yet so specific.

The day after I gave my final speech for L’Oreal’s Women of Worth, my manifested audience at the Transformational Speaking immersion, I arrived back in Miami Beach and began skimming through Facebook, checking in on all the updates I missed while I was in Santa Fe. My newsfeed refreshed itself, and at the very top of the newsfeed, I saw this:

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Take It Easy

March 4, 2016
 

The best way I shorten the duration of a head-splitting cold—the kind that makes me want to poke holes above at the top of my eye sockets and temples to relieve the pressure–is FOMO (fear of missing out). Matt gets up to make coffee and I hear the dog tapping on the hardwood and I’m up with gusto, throwing on my laid out running clothes—like I wear anything else—and quickly make my morning cup of Earl Grey tea, all before Matt steps out of his man kingdom–the bathroom–with his iPad turned to the WSJ homepage to not so gently demand, “Take it easy!”

Take it easy, huh?

A recent bout with a very short-lived head cold–thanks FOMO–has been a wonderful teacher.

We’re conditioned to do this “take it easy” thing only when we’re sick. Take a day off…when you’re sick. Why should I wait to take it easy until I’m sick? I can’t even binge watch Madam Secretary without turning the volume up to college party to compensate for the 89% deafness caused by the pressure I consistently deny building in my ears.

I’m resolving to say, “take it easy,” more frequently to people who aren’t already sick. Don’t you think we should all take it easy, even when we’re struggling? Because honestly, we’re all just winging it, no matter how great our poker face.

Take it easy from stressing out about how many followers you need on social media. They will find you in divine time. Take it easy from needing to respond to people on social media immediately–maybe you take the weekends off to be present with your partner, like I do. Take it easy and answer your emails tomorrow morning–they’ll still be in your inbox, mounting, but still there. Take it easy and call someone instead of texting them.

Take it easy and make a lovely dinner with your family. Play cards or charades. Don’t work on the weekends if you can manage. Take it easy and go for a long pointless walk with your dog on a Saturday afternoon. Take it easy and walk freely in your sports bra to let your belly see the light of day.

Life is already beautifully complex, without the iPhone, without body image concerns, without a short-lived head cold. There’s no stopping to smell the roses when you’re congested. So, take it easy, today.

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The Dangers of Bypassing Trust

January 12, 2016
 

How Bypassing Trust Affects Our Performance

Before I turned in for the night, after seeing The Big Short with my family, I did what I love to do when I’m home for the holidays: Put on my favorite red flannel pajamas that my husband absolutely abhors and I can’t get enough of and snuggle into my Mom’s cozy bed for some mother daughter time, which is welcomingly never about when I’ll finally get around to having kids. Instead, we talk about work and relationships and my red flannel pajamas. Sometimes we talk about yoga or what she’s learning in Ed. Psych, short for Educational Psychology.

Dorey, my black lab slumped over onto my lap like a puddle of Jello. I always love when she does this; when she rolls onto my lap like a trained dolphin and throws her sinewy legs into the sky. With the comfort of my immodestly slumped over dog on my lap, I confessed to Mom that I felt like I was losing my mind. And not in the way you’re thinking. It wasn’t an I’m too busy and I’m losing my mind. It was more of an I’m losing my mind in a way that I can’t even describe without feeling overwhelmingly embarrassed. Like lazy fog hovering over a river, some things just weren’t there anymore, and yet they were there, just under the fog.

I started to tear up before the words could even escape me, which I hate about myself but I’ve learned to love. “I’ll be speaking and in no particular moment and for no particular reason, my mind goes completely blank, like I’m sitting on a chair in a dark room and I have eight limbs for arms, each limb stretching in an opposite direction, reaching for the words I wanted to say just seconds before; reaching for my train of thought. Where was I going? What was I saying?” After seeing the movie Still Alice, I thought, well, there’s a chance I might actually be losing my mind. Losing my words.

To give you some background, my Mom’s an academic. She’s in a Ph.D. program studying Educational Psychology, researching a theory called Flow, broadly defined as the secret to happiness. If this theory is new to you, I recommend you watch this excellent TED talk on Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.

Mom also works with Olympic and college athletes, giving them tools to help access their peak performance. So she’s qualified to be my Mom but also to give me great advice as an academic. My prayer was that if anybody in the world had an answer as to why my mind was going blank, it would be her.

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