About my kind of life

my kind of life

Emily Nolan Joseph, photo by Mary Beth Koeth

Welcome to My Kind of Life, where we share inspiration to over 80,000 kind people.

My name is Emily Nolan and I am the Chief Empowerment Officer of My Kind of Life. In 2014, I was honored as one of Mind Body Green’s “Top 100 of the World’s Most Influential Thought Leaders in Wellness.” Here’s why: I have been a size 0 and a size 16. I’ve lived with 10 years of eating disorders. I’ve had plastic surgery, Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Female Athlete Triad. Even though I’ve always had an outgoing spirit, I was still so lonely at every size. I thought, “How could anyone love me when I’m constantly comparing myself to everyone else?”

Maybe you’ve asked yourself a similar question.

Around age 27, I was traveling the world as a model, and simultaneously hitting rock bottom: The voices in my head were incessantly telling me that I was not good enough. Despite the success as a model, I was lonely and craving acceptance. The voices were saying that my body needed fixing, and at that time, I didn’t have the tools to know how to shut them up–so, like most of us do, I bought into it.

After hitting bottom, I through my hands up in surrender. I decided that I’d start employing radical honesty because frankly, I finally didn’t care about what anyone else thought of me. I began to tell my family about the 15+ years I had struggled with feeling alone, feeling unwanted, feeling like my body always needed to be fixed and acting on it. Yes, I had failed a lot–but you don’t always need an A in class to pass.

I learned that radical honesty is a very important piece in my self-confidence toolkit. For once, I was interacting with people who genuinely cared for me (because I was finally being transparent). I also noticed that the Universe was on my side; I just had to trust it and stop judging it. During public interviews, I courageously employed honesty and for the first time, shared my story with the world. I saw that opening up to the truth was healing on so many levels, and empowering others to share their story, too.

What I didn’t know at the time, was that I was building a toolkit that would save my self confidence—giving me an unbridled joie de vivre back. A life unfalteringly full of goodness.

If you’re a professional woman feeling lonely, doubting your value, or maybe like you haven’t found the one yet, it’s actually just a surface symptom and can be corrected very easily with developing your self-confidence.

I challenge you to deepen your commitment to yourself, and unite with me for a Self Confidence Solution weekend intensive workshop & spa retreat in 2015. Each intimate retreat hosts 20 professional women and fosters their growth into supreme self-confidence. Send an email to Emily@MyKindofLife.com to get on the inquiry list, so you’re among the first to get the retreat details and booking information.

Twice a year, 13 of the Self Confidence Solution graduates will go on a 7 day quest for my Sustainable Self Confidence program. The quest is a beautiful pilgrimage hike to mark the transformation from self-doubt to self-confidence. This once-in-a-lifetime journey honors each woman as they commit to using their body as a vehicle, and not just a beauty equation.

Every year, for 2 weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, I challenge 5 cities in the United States for my nonprofit, Topless, to spread the message of mind and body empowerment. The Topless Tour challenge is a several hour (sport bra) event offering young professional women a sustainable self-confidence solution toolkit, yoga and intimate journaling exercises. The tour was created to show women what real women look like without Photoshop. Scars, a soft tummy, freckles—we are perfect just the way we are. And it is time that we boldly and bravely stand up for the perfect body that we already have and empower others to feel the same way.

In 2015, I am excited to announce that the tour will be in San Francisco, Los Angeles, Miami, Washington DC, and New York City. Join me and hundreds of other women in these cities, uniting with one common purpose: Inhale self-confidence and exhale self-doubt. (Come ready for journaling and dressed for yoga practice–all levels welcome).

I also invite you to join me, every Tuesday morning, on My Kind of Life, where I share award-winning articles and help young professional women with self-confidence.

Very kindly,


Emily Nolan Joseph

Chief Empowerment Officer

PS- The only size that matters, is the size of your brain–and heart.