About my kind of life

my kind of life

Emily Nolan Joseph, photo by Mary Beth Koeth

Emily Nolan is the author of award winning site, My Kind of Life and Chief Empowerment Officer of TOPLESS, 501(c)(3) nonprofit, a bras on, bellies out self-confidence event, redefining the way healthy looks in media and body image.

Emily spearheads the #HealthyBellySelfie project which was picked up by Seventeen magazine. #HealthyBellySelfie has made a significant contribution in the wellness community and #takebackpostpartum movement, allowing women and men to find beauty and confidence in their strong, able bodies.

Successful efforts to redefine healthy in media has landed Nolan in a coveted spokes model role with Italian lingerie company, Cosabella. Together, in 2015, TOPLESS x Cosabella launched their first highly regarded collaboration: Cosabella Extended.

Emily currently tours internationally with #TOPLESSbyemily, sponsored by lululemon athletica. At TOPLESS, Emily vulnerably shares her story of body image, showing women and men how to celebrate their bodies by baring their healthy bellies and moving to feel good.


A letter from Emily Nolan:

I’ve modeled at a size 0 and a size 16—I know that happiness doesn’t come from a size, it comes from within. I’ve lived with 10 years of eating disorders and obsessed over fad diets for as long as I could read the cover of a magazine. I’ve struggled with plastic surgery, Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Female Athlete Triad. I thought no one could love me just the way that I was, constantly trying to live my life through media’s expectations of what the perfect woman should look like.

Exhausted, from trying to keep up with the idea that I should look like someone I am not; I hit rock bottom. I had so much shame. I wanted to change my body, and painfully did; eating disorders, plastic surgery. I realized that changing my body didn’t help my self-confidence, it crushed it.

With radical honesty, I began sharing my story of my tumultuous journey through body image, figuring that I’d rather be happy at any size, than morbidly unhappy trying to look like a still-life, photoshopped image of a super model. In truth, radical honesty was my first successful attempt at living freely, without judgment for myself, for my size. Being truthful, without shame, is the most important tool in my self-confidence toolkit. I trust in courage, being brave enough to share my story, because it feels divinely correct.

What I learned by repelling my way into the deepest well of self-doubt, is that living with radical honesty has forever changed me. Sometimes you have to drink the muck at the bottom of the well, just to know how divine the sip at the top is. I always believed there was to be a better way to live than with a socially acceptable amount of self-sabotage, and as it turns out, there is.

It’s really human, having a shameful story that you’re afraid to bare witness to. It’s how you choose to let go of that story that decides how you bounce back. We’re built to be resilient—to have a hero’s journey—it’s written in our DNA.

You can let go with me.

Very kindly,


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this kinda rocks!
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